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Bullying Behaviors

Our school counselor conducts bullying classes throughout the year. The APS website has information on bullying for parents, kids, and school staff. The APS school district will be following the New Mexico Department of Education statue. For more information please visit the PED(Public Education Department) Website. Every student at Sombra can complete a bully slip if they feel they are being bullied.

Difference between Acting Mean, Conflict and Bullying

  • Acting mean or grumpy – is about how a person feels on a particular day, not an everyday thing. Usually, it is not targeted at one person and there isn’t an intention to hurt anyone. They may get hurt, but it is usually not the intention.
  • Conflict - when one person has a disagreement with another person, over something they have done or said. (there is equal power/2 sided)
  • Bullying - is unfair, one-sided. It happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose.


Equal power – friends
Happens occasionally
Not serious
Equal emotional reaction
Not seeking power or attention
Not trying to get something
Remorse-takes responsibility
Effort to solve the problem


Imbalance of power – not friends
Repeated negative actions
Serious –threat of physical, emotional or psychological harm/hurt
Strong emotional reaction on part of the target
Seeking power and control
Trying to gain material things or power
No remorse – blames others
No effort to solve the problem

Bullying Forms




Sombra del Monte Elementary School has a Contracted Psychotherapist available to provide emotionally supportive therapy to our families. Joanne Eekhoff, LCSW has a private practice in Albuquerque and is now able to provide therapy online or over the telephone.  Psychotherapy services are covered by most insurance plans. Please contact Joanne directly if you have any questions at 505.417.5544 or via email at

Here is the link to the online counseling lessons we have created:


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Counseling Guidance Program

The counseling guidance program at Sombra de Monte consists of direct and indirect components. I work directly with students through classroom guidance lessons, small groups, and individual counseling sessions. 

Classroom Guidance Lessons:

 As your students' school counselor I follow the ASCA model and the national standards for school counseling. There are 3 major domains that the standards fall under; Academic, Personal/Social, and Career/College Readiness. We cover a variety of topics throughout the school year. I utilize a needs assessment to guide the program with which topics I focus on each year.  

Small Group:

Small groups are based on need (teacher referral & family referral) and are 2-6 students per group with similar concerns/academic need within the same age range (example: 1st & 2nd graders with the topic of: Self Regulation). Topics include but not limited to; families of divorce, life transitions, self-esteem, friendship, self-regulation, academic goal setting/organization, and general support.

Individual Counseling:

I schedule individual sessions based on teacher and family referral. In the school environment, individual sessions are brief in nature, solution-focused and are set up as additional support for students for a short period of time (4-6 sessions). For more in-depth therapy or long term counseling outside resources are available. 

A letter of intent goes home for small group and individual counseling sessions outlining my intent to see your student(s) individually or in a small group, as well as my limits and confidentially limits.

If you would like to talk with me about your student's needs please call or email me.

Health & Wellness Team

The Health & Wellness team consists of the school counselor, the principal, the school nurse, and the classroom teacher(s).

How it works:

Teachers make referrals to Health & Wellness throughout the year when they see a concern that could be but not limited to social/emotional, behavioral, medical/health related, attendance related, or a change in student's behavior or academic performance.

The parents/guardians will be invited to attend this meeting and a letter will be sent home either with the child or mailed.

Our goal with the Health & Wellness team is to discuss any concerns that we are seeing at school, your concerns both at home and school as well as come up with recommendations or referrals to best help your student(s) and their academic success. Please do not hesitate to contact me in regards to this team.

Joanna Thrower, MA

Counseling Mission Statement

The Counseling Program will work hand in hand with staff, parents and community to ensure that every student is actively engaged in counseling guidance lessons and services that will enrich their lives in the areas of personal/social, academic and college/career readiness. Be committed to the uniqueness of every student and give them the tools they need to be successful in all their journeys in life.  Help create an environment that knows no limit to the academic success of each student.